Sorry to say I'll be relating “Seventeen Syllables” to
the movie of "The Joy Luck Club" and not the book.
The
movie is about first generation mothers telling second generation daughters of
their experiences back in China to help them in their current lives. This shows
a separation between second generation, Nisei, and first generation, Issei, as
Yamamoto would describe in her text. Throughout the book and the film, the mothers
teach their daughters about love and life even though there is a cultural
barrier between them.
In “The Joy Luck Club”, I will talk more closely of Ying Ying St. Clair’s story as she is the character that mostly portrayed Tome Hayashi
in “Seventeen Syllables”. Ying Ying and Tome are shown as submissive to their
husbands. Although Tome husband is not physically abusive to her, both Ying
Ying and Tome husbands are degrading to their wives. Ying Ying would have to deal
with her husband’s abusive words and actions even though they have a child.
Tome deals with her husband’s burst of outrage when she talks about the one
thing that she loves, Haiku. The abuse are a husband’s way of claiming their
place as dominant to their wives when the wives begin to rise in dominance. In
the text you can notice the rise of a wife, “Rosie noticed that her mother and
Mr. Hayano were talking together at the little table… while her father was
sitting at one end of the sofa looking through a copy of Life, the new picture
magazine” (25). The father would feel belittled by looking at pictures on the
sofa like a child and his wife sitting at the table discussing poetry like an adult
and give him the reason to storm out. For Ying Ying she was abused by her
husband daily so that she would feel subordinate to him, like a proper wife in
the first generation.
The mothers also had sons that have died and have severely affected them to
be able tell their daughters of the dangers in love. Both mothers are
traumatized by their experience and have moments of remembrance for their dead
child. Tome would remember her child at the end of the story as she tells Rosie
why she puts up with her father, “Her mother, at nineteen, come to America and
married her father as an alternative to suicide” (37). Her mother’s depression
came from her tragic love life that led to her pregnancy and then to the miscarriage
of her son yet she continued living because of the second chance of a beginning
in America. Similarly, Ying Ying’s son also died as she accidentally left her
baby to drown in the bath as she was consumed by hate and sorrow to her abusive
husband. In the movie, Lena talks about her mother’s dazed moments where she is
fazed and holds a sorrowful look with tears for her son, but what brings her
back is her daughter.
Through these experiences, the mothers are able to warn their daughters
about love and how it can turn horribly wrong. Although they have different
cultures they still are able to teach them a lesson in love, to own your life.
I believe that if there was a continuation of Rosie’s love life it would have
been just like Lena’s. Lena’s love life is sad as she is also submissive to her
husband even though her mother warned her. Her husband sees their relationship
as something financial which depresses Lena. Ying Ying sees this and tells her
that she shouldn’t be silent and that she must take command over her life. Tome
says the same thing to Rosie to take control over her life by not marrying, “Promise,
her mother whispered fiercely, promise. Yes, yes, I promise, Rosie said” (38.)
Her mother predicts that she will be submissive like her and only wishes her
for her own life. The mothers want what is best for their daughters and that is
to break from tradition as a wife who is submissive to be their own self.
Therefore, although Issei mothers teach their daughters traditions, they want
their daughters to break free from them.
I could relate with Rosie and Lena as I am also a Nisei who was raised by
an Issei mother. My mother, born in Korea, told me how being a female was difficult
as her brother would have the best food to eat and the choice to go to a college
while her and her sisters didn’t. She would tell me that she moved to America
for my sister and me. Although my mother did not have tragic stories as Tome
and Ying Ying she still told me the same lesson as they did and that is to take
command over my life.